Parents are the ones on whom the child depends for the fulfilment of his desires and needs. Their each promise is like a hope for the child. And whenever parents break their promise, it breaks the child’s heart and shatters his trust. So don’t take promises made to your child casually.
Make promises you can keep
When your child is not ready to go to school, you promise him that you’ll pick him up after school and eat at McDonalds knowing very well that you won’t be able to leave office. Don’t make promises you can’t honour.
Make a new promise in case the old one is unfulfilled
If due to unavoidable circumstances you are unable to keep your promise, explain to your child the reasons and make a fresh promise. Let him express his disappointment instead of saying, ‘It’s not that big a deal!’
Don’t promise everything or anything
Don’t commit for things you otherwise don’t give your child as a matter of rule. Make promises discreetly or else they lose their charm and you obviously won’t be able to remember all the promises.
Use promises as ‘reward’ and not as ‘bribe’
Promise your child a holiday, a movie, a toy or a chocolate for respecting elders, scoring well, cleaning his room or being helpful, but not for letting you watch the serial or chat on the phone.
Honour your promises to teach the child integrity of words
When you keep your word, the child learns the importance and value of making commitment. He will get inspired to keep his promises made not only to you but to anybody.
This article appeared in Hindustan Times