Parents react to their child’s lies with anger, shock, and disillusionment. Scolding, being angry at them or telling them how disappointed you are would make them realize they have done something wrong. But this won’t solve the problem of lying. Find out and analyze the root cause which made your child hide the truth.
Do you yourself lie?
Children copy and act like their parents. If the father asks the child to say on the phone he is not at home or the mother asks the child not to tell papa, lying becomes a perfectly normal way of dealing with issues in life for the child.
Does your child fear you?
The most common reason for lying is fear of a parent’s anger, scolding or fear of disappointing them. Make your child so confident and assured of your love that they stop fearing your reaction.
Does your child lack self-esteem?
Children may lie to appear better, prove themselves to be stronger, more intelligent. This is all because your child lacks self-confidence. Boost their self-esteem with your love and appreciation.
Does he need more attention?
Lying about stomach ache or being hit by another child are ways to seek a parent’s attention. Analyze if you are neglecting your child or being overprotective.
Do you teach your child the difference between right and wrong?
As parents, you need to continuously teach your child ethics and values. By setting an example yourself, strengthen the child’s will power and conscience so that they follow the path of truth.
A relationship of love and trust with the child will assure them to tell you everything rather than resort to lies.
This article appeared in Hindustan Times