My 16 year old daughter wants to talk on phone and roam with boys which is not acceptable to us. We have also discovered that she has been making calls in our absence. How should we tackle the situation?
It is has been rightly said about handling teenagers that it is not the teenager, but probably the parents who need to change. It is not going to be easy at all for you but you definitely need to give more freedom to your daughter. You have to respect her privacy and also accept the fact that now she is grown up.
This is the age when your daughter will be attracted to the opposite sex. So what’s wrong with it? And if you fear that your daughter may do something ‘bad’ then instead of restricting her, try to be a friend to your teenager .Develop a relationship where she feels comfortable to share her feelings with you -may it be on sex, boys, fear of failure or anything, just like she does with her friends. Only then you’ll be able to know what is going on her life and guide her whenever you think she is doing something wrong. And even she’ll not hide anything from you. Moreover you need to trust your daughter. The more you’ll show faith in her, the less likely it is that she’ll go astray. And how long can you keep telling her what’s right and what’s wrong?
The openness and trust in the relationship with your daughter will give her the power to differentiate between right and wrong.