Bullying is a negative personality trait which begins to develop at a very young age. Many bullies are insecure children trying to gain attention or fit in within a group or some are just mean with no compassion for others. So if you see your child passing comments on the appearance or behaviour of other children or he/she likes to a be a part of a group who ‘rags’ juniors, it is a serious matter of concern and before you analyze and come to a conclusion, he might turn into a bully. The good part is that you can prevent your child from becoming a bully.
Model compassion in your child – The best way to keep children away from being bullied or to protect your child from becoming a bully is by instilling compassion for other people and relationships. Take your child to volunteer with organizations helping the homeless and needy. Never use power to discipline your child or any other member in the house; he will learn to use power over others. Treat elders and servant with respect, your child will learn through your example.
Build confidence with other people – Confident children are less likely to become a bully as they do not pose an insecure personality. Thus, encourage your child to speak up for himself. Let him buy the tickets at the museum or theater. Not only to do the right thing but the child should have the courage and confidence to accept his/her mistakes as well. Teach him to apologize and move on.
Teach your children social skills – In the act to become socially receptive, a child normally joins a group and sticks around even if one of the group members mistreats him. Thus, instil social values in your child. Role play with your child on how to join a game at the playground, introduce themselves to another child at a party or ask for a playdate. Kids who are successful in joining groups are less likely to become bullies.
Coach your child against teasing or bullying – As your child is growing, it’s important to discuss this issue before he is subjected to bullying so that he can stand up for himself and not become one of them. Teach him to avoid children who provoke or comment on him as he is much different than all of them. Also reassure your child that being scared or afraid of such a situation is not a big deal and there’s no harm in telling an adult or asking for help. Boost your child confidence by talking to him about his positive traits. Communicate with your child regularly and ask him about his friends and peers. If you notice anything disturbing, discuss with your child.